Dating Tips for Feminist Men

I really found this article interesting. Numbers 5 and 16 stuck out the most to me. A quote from number 16 states “If you find yourself disregarding something she is saying because she is upset as she is saying it, notice that this is sexism. You may have been raised to believe emotion is not rational and is therefore not legitimate. That is for you to unlearn, not for you to impose on others.” THIS IS SO RELEVANT TO ME. I think often any show of emotion is viewed as irrational and is devalued (which is hard when you feel strongly about things but also get really emotional about things). Number 5 discusses the ways in which being “polite” can often mean keeping in line with oppressive structures. I thought it was also an interesting way to approach hook up culture. My mom’s reaction was “Can a guy be feminist and participate in hook up culture?” and we had a SUPER interesting conversation about it. 

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  1. I loved this article as well! I especially appreciated/was interested by the way it emphasized a responsibility to check up on someone who you engage with sexually. I think this is in many ways the worst part about hook-up culture, which doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Mostly I’m always fascinated with the points at which we become responsible for other bodies.

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